As I sit here searching my heart for today’s share I grab the May issue of “O” Magazine for inspiration. I start to read the article titled “You Gotta Have Faith”. I read the first 5 paragraphs but it does not hold my attention. Instead I ask myself what is most important to me, right now. What is the reason I have passion for Totally Fabulous Woman? What does “Waking Up Fabulous” mean and why would anyone care?
My answers: fun and self-acceptance. Life is short. Let’s get some more (fun and self-acceptance). I have invited huge chunks of these two gifts into my life by practicing one simple statement: That’s where you are Tina and it’s OK. In the midst of challenge and difficulty these words strung together by me in love of me makes all the difference.
Every time I have a cause to say this, saying it floods me with comforting release. It is like having mommy kiss the sore and magically it feels better. That’s where you are (Your Name) and it’s OK, says: Don’t beat yourself up honey. This is where you are right now. It is not where you will be forever. It is OK if you don’t like that this is where you are. It is even OK if you don’t like that you don’t like that this is where you are. It is all OK. It is not who you are. These are circumstances and circumstances always change. You are so much more than these circumstances and these feelings. My love, take as many deep breaths as you need and if it doesn’t feel better call a friend or make an appointment to see a therapist. This is life. We are learning as we go. You don’t have to get it all right today. If you need help, or just someone to talk to, it’s OK!
This is the love and wisdom we can give ourselves with just the little phrase, That’s where you are (Your Name) and it’s OK.
But when all is said and done whatever it is that has you challenged in this moment is better than the alternative. And if death sounds like the better alternative to you, stop reading this now and call someone immediately. Be good to you. You are here in the game of life learning to be one of its best players. Say YES to being you. The alternative is permanent.
Thanks for coming by. Drop me a line at tina@totallyfabulouswoman.com and let me know what’s on your mind. I will probably use it for this blog.
Fabulous me to Fabulous you,
Tina