It may be difficult to look at these ladies and see any resemblance between their lives and yours. Some of you feel that you will never have their wealth or fame. Some of you are completely uninterested in their wealth or fame and find the way they live their lives to be unconscious, indulgent or generally dysfunctional and therefore utterly unattractive.
What if you were to think back to a time when you tried desperately to “fit in”, or when you desperately needed or wanted “to be seen”, or when you were so young or arrogant that you thought the world revolved around you? If you go back in time and recall feeling insecure within yourself and the behavior that flowed from you during those uncomfortable passages, might you have a bit more understanding of these young ladies? Might you see maybe a tiny bit of resemblance, or at least have a bit more compassion for the challenges they clearly face?
The point I hope to make has very little to do with these celebrities. Rather, the point is to become honest enough and accepting enough of yourself that no matter the situation or challenge you have compassion for yourself, that you try again and again in your life until you get the answers that make the difference your heart desires, and that you dare to use the world around you as a reminder of the importance of being and staying connected to yourself. When you see someone in distress, love them instead of gossiping. Pray the prayer of gratitude that gives thanks for the life you are living.
These ladies have forgotten their true fabulousness. They have not learned that true fabulousness is not in the how much money you have, who you sleep with, or what kind of car you drive. True fabulousness is in how you respond to yourself, life and others. Can you respond to yourself with love and compassion and forgiveness? Can you extend that forgiveness and compassion to others? Can you work with whatever has taken place in your life until the pain is transformed into a gift and you accept from your pain the good it brings? Can you find joy in the midst of life’s challenges? This is the path of Waking up Fabulous.
These ladies have gotten caught defining themselves by the world around them as opposed to going within and making peace with the hurt and confusion that live inside. Hurt from their past has distorted itself and left them feeling “not enough” (even though they have money and fame). If we are honest, we all know what this feels like and how feeling this way can periodically disrupt or negatively impact our lives. If we take time to acknowledge the places that hurt, we can give them the dose of love that will help them heal.
If there is old hurt lingering in your life, I encourage you to take time to acknowledge it. Make a list of the left over hurt and instead of blaming yourself or others simply go down the list and with each hurt or painful memory tell yourself, “I love you very much. I am sorry about the parent, teacher’s comment, illness or whatever it is that hurt you growing up. Hold yourself and rock or rub your shoulders as you speak these words of love and compassion to tell yourself. This may feel foreign or weird but it can do a world of good. I encourage you to try it today as a strategy for Waking up Fabulous.
Fabulous me to Fabulous you,
Tina