Change Is An "Inside Job"
In order to change anything in your life, you must first make a change within your self. Every change is an “inside job.” Change is not about controlling or changing another person or situation in your outer life so that it suits you better. It is about changing you, internally.
So, for example, if you want to experience peace in your life, you must first seek to create peace within yourself no matter what. The level of peace you experience in your external life is solely dependent on the level of peace you feel within. Then as you attain this internal peace, you achieve a peace that the world can not take away from you.
You, thus, have achieved a peace that is rock solid and deep. Then you know what it means to stand on solid ground.
So, whatever you wish to change or achieve, you must first go within, honestly evaluate your thoughts, beliefs, fears, etc. about the issue, release the ones that do not serve you and then embrace the ones that do. Then things will really change for you.
It can and likely will be a challenge to be so honest with yourself, but it is the only way to really effect significant change in your life.
Try it with anything you would like to change in your life. It really works.
Meditation is the primary tool I use to access this level of myself. It is the best way I know of to get in touch with my underlying beliefs and thoughts. And it is the most effective method with which to create the changes I want in my life.