SELF Confidence
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January 26, 2009
SELF Confidence
Be who you are and say what you feel
because those who mind don't matter
and those who matter don't mind.
Dr. Seuss
Below is a letter that I received recently regarding SELF-Confidence and my response.
Yanni,
I am in such a tizzy I wish to ask you a question; any help will be appreciated.
I am on my spiritual journey. I have asked to be a pure channel for god's love and healing for others. God and my higher self are helping me put things in order. I am learning life lessons daily and working to keep peaceful and loving which is not always easy. Business challenges me on a daily basis as does my relationship with my husband. I realize that I attracted all this and asked for the growth and development that would come from it, but when can you say, "Respect me!" I do not wish to be a doormat for clients and agents or for my husband at times. I DO want peace and love, but how do I tell the UNIVERSE/GOD that I want respect and appreciation for all I do?
Thanks for your thoughts. Being raised Catholic I have a saint-martyr thing. I want to serve and am thankful to serve. Am I asking too much to ask for respect and appreciation?
Mary
Mary,
First of all, you must learn to love, appreciate and respect yourself first. That begins by knowing that what you feel is important. And it also includes knowing that you are important--actually you are of paramount importance!
Respect is only given when it is asked for and expected. So, you must ask, however difficult or awkward it may be for you. For starters you must create a clear internal intention that you wish to be respected and then also create a clear internal intention that you will notice when you are not being respected. Keep repeating these intentions morning, noon and night.
Because you are used to being a door mat, you don't realize, until way after an interaction, that you were not being respected. So, as you become more in touch with what is happening in an interaction, you then can speak up from a grounded and centered place and communicate that you do not feel that you are being heard or respected.
Those who are not used to you speaking up in these circumstances may ignore you at first or try to put you down, but just be persistent and patient. The important thing here is not so much that they acknowledge you, but what is important is that you assert yourself. In time, they will hear you. It's a gradual process of listening to your feelings, honoring them and then learning to assert and express your self.
So, you must first learn how to listen to and respect yourself before you can expect anyone else to listen to and respect you!
Hope this helps a bit. Blessings and Love and know that you can do it!
Yanni
FYI, There is more on this topic in my next post on 02 02 09
January 23, 2009
Being "True to Your Self"--Live By Intuition and Inspiration
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January 19, 2009
Being "True to Your Self"--Live By Intuition and Inspiration
"Know Thyself!" This has been the clarion call of the Ancient Mystery Schools from time immemorial. The Schools have been meeting places for all who have wanted to come to truly "know" who they are and claim their personal Mastery. The profoundly transforming tools of Self-Mastery that were taught in the Schools have been "hidden" for millennia and up until recently available to only a select few. But they are now available to all who sincerely desire to learn them.
One of the great gifts of the times we are now living in is that we all can directly access this knowledge for ourselves. As well, we can each directly connect with the Masters that embody this wisdom/love and be guided by them into a deeper connection with our Selves/Souls. We can connect with a very powerful and a very real Internal Master Mind Group that really supports and loves us.
We can attain Mastery of our minds, emotions, body, and ego; and when we do, we can live a life that is constantly fed and inspired by the deepest levels of our Soul/Higher Self. We can live a life of Empowerment, Joy, and Love. We can be free of the limitations and myopia of the ego mind.
As Eileen Cady, the co-founder of The Findhorn Community, so elegantly stated:
Cease trying to work everything out with your mind.
It will get you nowhere.
Live your life by Intuition and Inspiration.
Let your whole life be a Revelation.
By claiming our Self-Mastery, we learn how to live in the divine flow of life--free of the fears, worries, and false beliefs that limit us. We can claim our Mastery and leave behind our old, false identities of being victims and powerless. We can directly access the wisdom of our Soul and live our lives based on its inspirations.
Self-Mastery and empowerment are the birthrights we are all entitled to. We are being called to accept our true inheritance, one in which we finally realize that we are divine Masters and co-creators of Joy.
You can uncover for yourself the mystery and majesty of who you really are. You can end your bondage to the old, false self-images and the enmeshments and entanglements of your past, and claim the power and freedom to "Be true to your Self."
You can enter the doors to the sacred temple of your Soul and find within all the wondrous beauty of Thy Self.
By learning to breathe, quiet the ego mind and listen, you, too can become a Master of your life and no longer a victim.
Small is the number of those who see with their own eyes
and feel with their own hearts.
Albert Einstein
January 16, 2009
Putting your Self First-- Being True to Your Self
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January 12, 2009
Putting your Self First--Being True to Your Self: A Meditation
How can you be "true to yourself?" How can you live your life authentically connected to who you really are and not to who you think you should be?
The key is listening. That is, listening to your authentic Self or your Soul and following her promptings. This means that you must slow down enough to quiet your ego mind and view your self and the situation at hand from the perspective of your Soul.
Your ego will always "awfulize" and "catastrophize" everything. It makes everything a life and death situation when in fact there is no death, there is only life! It notices or fixates on irrelevant details and ignores the bigger picture.
Progress up your life's mountain of Mastery is not a linear progression. Progress in your life is a series of pieces of a puzzle that you experience over time which eventually helps you to see the bigger picture.
But it is only your Soul that can help you see your experiences from this broader perspective. And if you ignore or don't even know that there is such a perspective through which to interpret and understand yourself and the experiences you are having, you are lost.
So, I often find myself asking the question: "What does my Soul or Higher Self think of this situation? How does my Soul feel and see it all?" These are the questions I want to always be asking and this is the way in which I want to learn how to see and interpret everything in my life. I know that by doing it this way, everything is softer, easier and clearer. And it allows me to be more relaxed and at peace.
So, take the time to learn how to "see" again. Take the time to breathe, quiet your mind and pause before you act or react from your ego's perspective.
Learn how to put your Self or your Soul first and leave your ego behind. Always, always, breathe, pause and ask: "How does my Soul see this?" And then trust what you receive! Then you will be putting your Self first!
January 9, 2009
Who Do You Think You Are? A Meditation
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January 5, 2009
Who Do You Think You Are? A Meditation
In the Katha Upanishad, the sages of ancient India describe
the source of the limitless potential within us in the following manner:
There shines not the sun, neither the moon nor star,
nor flash of lightening, nor fire lit on earth as bright.
The Self is the light reflected by all.
He shining, everything shines after him.
And as the Sufi mystics write:
He whom the galaxies can not contain, he is in my little heart.
It is so hard for the ego mind to wrap itself around who you really ARE. The ego mind is only capable of remembering the conditioning which it has been fed since birth. It knows nothing about the Divine plan that you formulated before it came into being. It has no clue regarding your infinite potential; and it certainly has no idea about the incredible mysteries and majesty that lie within you.
So, why do we keep relying on the ego mind to help us get to know ourselves or to understand what our purpose is? The ego mind is meant at best to be a servant of our soul. It is not meant to be our master.
So, let us learn how to access this clear, pure essence by learning to quiet our ego mind and listen to our heart/soul. Then we will discover who we ARE.
Meditation is the key to this way of perceiving.
Whatever arises is not Self.
It is not I;
it does not belong to anybody;
it is just conditioning.
Jack Kornfield
January 2, 2009
The Mind is a Lot Less Important than We Think It is: a Meditation
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